How Quieting Negative Voices Helps Life, Love, Work & Parenting (Part 3)

How Quieting Negative Voices Helps Life, Love, Work & Parenting (Part 3)

In the last article of a three-part series on quieting negative voices in your head, the MMSNorCal coaches share the benefits and value of quieting negative voices in your life, love, work, and parenting. (You can read the previous artices here: Part 1, Understanding Negative Voices in Your Head and Part 2, How to Quiet Negative Voices in Your Head).

Powerful benefits of quieting negative voices in your head include:

  • Freeing up space to feel positive about yourself
  • Stopping trying to control or fix things
  • Showing up with positivity

And, lastly, we talk about how coaching can help you quiet the negative voices in your head.

Feel Positive and Good About Yourself

Coach Muriel Murphy is very happy and pleased with her success in quieting negative voices in her head. 

She says,”Wow! Not hearing those negative thoughts is a life changer. Not only am I getting much better sleep but I have given myself permission to be proud of myself, feel good about who I am and all that I have been through. I think that has rubbed off on my children, so they can feel good about themselves too.”

She continues, “I also know I am smart, strong and loveable. That has given me confidence to go after the things that I want in life, appreciate what I have and has made every relationship I have be more meaningful and deeper.”

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Stop Trying to Control or Fix Things

Coach Carla Morton feels the following three mantras or phrases have helped her from trying to fix or control everything:

  • Everything will work out for the best
  • This too shall pass
  • Trust, Trust, Trust

She adds, “Of course we want to try to fix or control but we don’t really have that power when we are dealing with life, love, work and parenting, so I talk myself into this State of Allowing; I’ve found everything does work out!”

For Coach Hayden-Marsan, the techniques she uses to quieten negative voices in her head are literally a life raft for her in the open sea called Life.

She adds, “Committing myself to working on the practices I’ve mentioned and cultivating awareness is a lifelong on-going commitment for me.

I feel like I have come a long way in my journey, but I still have times when I get swept away with reactivity, or emotions; there are just a lot less of those moments, which inspires me to keep on doing the work.”

Show up with Positivity

Coach Mueller Ihrig finds that she shows up in life as a more positive person. She has received valued feedback from colleagues, family members and most importantly, my grown boys! 

She adds, “My mission in life is to make a difference, to create an impact.To inspire and connect, to elevate our individual and collective wellbeing to enrich the world. If we are to meet the immense challenges we face today, we need to rise to our higher potential.Adopting an empowering mindset is key to this.I find myself more motivated and importantly, more resilient, when changing my inner dialogue.”

How Coaching can Help Quiet the Negative Voices

Understand the Power of the Subconscious

Coach Mueller Ihrig shows her coaching clients a graphic of how the brain takes in information and the power of the subconscious. She also explains that as humans we are wired with a negativity bias and that we tend to automatically focus on the negative rather than on the positive.

For example,did you know that it takes approximately three positive thoughts or actions to combat a single negative experience?

She adds, “The great news is we can rewire our brains to process differently with practice. Practicing awareness of when the negative voices come up, and to immediately change them around. Implementing proactive times during the day, like my morning routine, to regularly focus on the positive and literally tell yourself what you need to hear to aspire to your higher self.”

What we focus on grows. And, as we find ourselves noticing the abundance in our lives, we are able to grow more of it. We become what we want to attract.

Coach Michelle Mueller Ihrig

Coach Mueller Ihrig also encourages her clients to journal daily about their experiences to track progress, keep a forward momentum, and create daily habits.

Understand the Negative Voices

Coach Lindsey Taylor-Vivier helps her coaching clients by trying to normalize the negative voices so that they don’t feel so alone in this experience. She draws out the voices with questions, such as:

  • What is he/she saying?
  • What are the feelings underneath the words?
  • When did the voice appear?

Coach Lindsey often finds that the negative voice is a part of the client that needs to be acknowledged, loved, and healed. For this part of the work, she asks her client the following questions:

  • What does he/she need?
  • How can he/she heal?
  • What’s in the way?

Redirect to a More Positive Thought Pattern

Coach Muriel stays present and compassionate with her clients when they feel negative thoughts are dominating their mind. 

And, while staying with them, she begins to ask open-ended questions to redirect the pattern of negative thoughts and voices towards a more positive thought pattern.

Increase Self Awareness

Coach Carla uses the opportunity of addressing negative voices as a way of increasing her client’s self awareness. She asks her client “to look at the gift of each difficult moment. I ask them what is in their awareness and what they are learning about themselves when they are in the negativity.”

She also asks her clients to be compassionate with their negative voices rather than feel shame, negativity, or deny their existence.

Coach Hayden-Marsan helps her clients increase self awareness around negative thoughts or voices. She talks about the importance and value of even noticing when we are having negative thoughts. The fact is that noticing thoughts requires some level of awareness, which is worth recognizing and acknowledging for ourselves.

This coaching moment helps Coach Hayden-Marsan focus on”the importance of developing a compassionate mindset. Being compassionate with ourselves is a key element in the process of learning new, positive behaviors.

A self-compassionate mind set will help be able to stick with initiating new tools and instilling new behaviors. She is a strong proponent of developing a compassionate mindset.

Sometimes we need to go from being our worst enemy to being our fiercest advocate, and self compassion will get us there.

Coach Michelle Hayden-Marsan

Take Positive Action 

Coach Sarah E. Spencer finds that many of her clients experience shaken confidence, some for the first time, which can create negative thoughts. 

She says, “As we work together to uncover these thoughts and emotions, if they can identify to take one action step, no matter how small, and reward themselves for taking the action, they can create positive momentum and many times the negative voices will start to disappear.”

Good luck on your journey in quieting the negative voices in your head!

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Breaking up with My Smartphone – Lessons

Breaking up with My Smartphone – Lessons

The phrase – breaking up with my smartphone – sounds unthinkable, dramatic, and even radical to most people because like almost everyone on this planet, I have a very close relationship with my smartphone.

My smartphone is always within arms length for quick check-ins ranging from checking the weather, news, emails to spending time on social media.

In this blog post, I share some of my own insights based on my learnings from Price’s book and my journey on breaking up with my smartphone.

Not really but you get the point.

How I Embarked on Breaking up with my Smartphone

Without much reflection on the matter, I have considered myself to be a mindful consumer but the events of the last two years have changed my perspective.

The pandemic, the lockdowns, and the pauses provided me with long periods of reflection on various aspects of my behaviors especially those I did mindlessly. And, one of these was my relationship with my smartphone.

Fortuitously, the universe delivered guidance and insights in the form of Catherine Price’s book, How to Break Up With Your Phone. Her book offers a step-by-step process to renegotiate your relationship with your phone, how you want to use it and how much time. 

After reviewing her book, for the first time in a long time, I started to find balance and regain focus and sleep.

Just as I’ve renegotiated the clothes in my dresser, I’m eager to do the same for my smartphone.

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How Smartphones Usage is Impacting Memory

We love our smartphones for many reasons, not the least of which that they are amazing handheld computers that facilitate many things in our lives. That many of us question how much time we spend on these miracle electronics is a good thing.

Here are two of Price’s key findings that resonated deeply with me as I considered breaking up with my smartphone.

1. We are not solely responsible for the addiction to our smartphones.

Did you know that social media apps are designed to keep you clicking and scrolling away?

After reading this point, I followed up with some research and found this study, Addictive Features of Social Media/Messenger Platforms and Freemium Games against the Background of Psychological and Economic Theories. It makes for a sobering read.

So yes, we are partially to blame for the time we spend on our smartphones but Price is on point that you are not solely responsible for time logged.

2. Smartphones drain our brains making it harder to stay focused.

As a science journalist, Price further reports that the smartphone and all of its functions disrupts our concentration, and the brain has to go to a lot more effort to maintain focus.

The mind gets drained sooner, and has more difficulty maintaining attention.

The result is that it succumbs to distractions more quickly, rather than staying the course doing what we were doing.

And, this also impacts our short and long-term memory. 

For me personally, I have experienced the negative impacts of too-much-social media, especially on my sleeping patterns.

Falling asleep or waking up in the night, I’ve even tried to hack the blue light by wearing special glasses.

Reading the book has brought this key fact into light for me: the extent of the disruption in my focus.

How Truly are You Connected to Your Smartphone

Here are two questions that can help you understand to find out really, truly how connected you are to your smart device. This understanding could make you embark on the same journey as I did:

  1. How many times do you pick up your phone each day?
  2. Any sense of why you pick up your phone?

Now, ask yourself why you pick up your phone so frequently.

  • Is it because of notifications, phone calls, texts and DMs?
  • Are you researching a question, making travel arrangements, buying event tickets, or shopping?
  • Are you checking email, time or the weather?
  • Are you reading the news or surfing social media? 

I suggest journaling and reflecting on some of the answers you discover.

Your reflections could help you decide you do want to reduce your dependence on your smartphone or it may create mindfulness on how often and why you use your phone.

And, it may help you decide that you may indeed want to break up with your smartphone to regain your focus and momentum.

Tips on Reducing the Disruption of Smartphones

I have begun a series of mindful actions to reduce the disruption that my smartphone is causing me; you could say that I am breaking up with my smartphone in a thoughtful and intentioned manner.

Serendipitously, another colleague was on a similar quest. She took her own smartphone break after noticing that she was reaching for her phone constantly between tasks without even thinking about it.

Here are my colleague’s list of actions that she very generously shared with me: 

  • Check trusted websites and podcasts to stay informed on news once a day
  • Pay attention to shows she is watching and podcasts she is listening to without simultaneously checking social media
  • Spend more quality time with her kids without feeling drawn to document the fun
  • Reading two books in a week for pleasure, instead of hours of nighttime scrolling
  • Journaling for the first time in many years
  • Sitting in silence occasionally 

If you are struggling to maintain momentum moving forward with your objectives due to a lack of focus, you might consider breaking up with your smartphone. And to help you on your journey, you may find the book, How to Break Up with Your Phone. to be a timely read for you!

And, one final tip that I, as a professional coach, cannot resist sharing: here is a great read on when to consider getting a professional or executive coach.

Good luck on your journey on regaining focus and momentum!

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Eight Questions Nonprofit Leaders Must Ask

Eight Questions Nonprofit Leaders Must Ask

Consistent good leadership is an essential skill, one more important than ever in all workplaces – private, not-for-profit or government. Although this article focuses on nonprofit leadership, many of these questions apply to anyone already a leader, or aspiring to be one. The last two years with the global pandemic and social, political and economic turmoil, have tested our professional acumen, stress levels and maybe even our health. If you need to be inspired in your leadership in these difficutl times, do read this article: Leadesrhip Lessons from Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

In the nonprofit sector, the upheaval in employment and hence personal finances has impacted philanthropy. Volunteers may not have been available due to lockdowns, safety protocols or time available. Educators have somehow managed to move to online learning and empty campuses. Even your devoted employees energized by your organization’s mission may have unexpectedly left for remote work or more money, and it’s hard to recruit talented replacements.

This is a lot, even for the most experienced nonprofit leaders and professional colleagues. Take time to pause, grab a cup of tea or a glass of wine, and ask yourself the following eight questions to help reset your organization for success – and why not invite your leadership and diversity of professional colleagues to join in too?

Are We Still Connecting with Passion and Purpose

Nonprofit organizations are founded with a clear purpose – be it providing learning, improving the human condition or benefiting the local community. Talented professionals who look to these workplaces for employment are usually motivated by deep passion in their work, and donors and volunteers are moved to invest because of the mission’s purpose. 

Consider: Is my organization still serving its purpose, and if yes, to what degree and for whom? Do I and my colleagues still have the passion to navigate our current challenges? Can we benchmark that passion on a scale from one to ten, and is there agreement? If there are questions or doubts, how can we rekindle the fires? 

Take a deep breath. These are hard questions for any leader and organization.

Do you have the resources – from your board, leadership team, mentor or coach – to provide the necessary support to look for and respond effectively to the answers? 

Does Everyone Know Where We are Going

Great nonprofit leaders also know that all organizations – alongside their board of directors or executive committee – should periodically review its vision and mission. Have you recently revised, adjusted or created a new strategic and implementation plan given the disruptions of the last two years and the dynamics of the environment we find ourselves in?

Nonprofit organizations also have many invested stakeholders (remember that purpose and passion above) so it’s critical these diverse constituents know where you and the organization are headed. Are you staying the course or taking a detour or a new direction, maybe to get to the same place or a new destination because of the circumstances that require it?

Do you have the required creative and conceptual skills to keep all the stakeholders going in the same direction, and if you see gaps, are you able to address them?

Several of my clients seek to hone their elevator pitches, telling a new story with the most impact. They know there are limited attention spans, especially over a screen. They also know that successful leaders need to garner support by sharing their vision and the organization’s journey, with passion, clarity and confidence. 

Are We Still Connecting Vision and Mission to the Investment

Nonprofit leaders know they must provide a social return on investment as opposed to a financial return sought in the private business world. As the Third Sector Company points out, the nonprofit leader has to not only create a positive financial bottom line but must also work equally hard to show a measurable social bottom line or social profit, resulting from the work. This is often more complex with variables that come from working with a community, instead of a building or factory.

So, do we still have tangible evidence of the impact from our mission? How are we demonstrating that impact to our diverse stakeholders? Have we adapted our communication to tell a powerful and compelling story? 

Are We Investing in Staff and their Learning & Development

Financial realities impacted many line items, from headcount to travel expenses. Professional development monies are also easier to reduce, and in many cases, have remained depleted as organizations balance smaller budgets.

With financial mitigation also comes disruption of traditional learning and development. Depending on the sector, in-person conferences, on-site training workshops and staff retreats have been non-existent, moved on-line or not funded. Add to acute screen fatigue and many staff may show little interest in learning new things. 

Depending on resources available, what are the skill gaps to take your organization forward (for example, instructional design to deliver virtually learning)?

What are critical skills and  networks that your organization will require to move forward? With turnover, lots of new supervisors and managers will need investment to be successful. Are you able to adequately ensure diversity, equity and inclusion? Is your staff burned out, hence lacking motivation, and feeling less connected to their purpose for work? What energizes them? If they are burned out, is it okay for a pause? Does the team require professional coaching?

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Can the Organization Align with the New Workplace

Even with compelling passion, purpose and mission, an organization and a great nonprofit leader cannot counter national trends, and the workplace and compensation are two drivers that have left many nonprofit professionals ready for a retreat, or a coach. 

Obviously, where employees do their work is the conversation of the year. Some nonprofits are able to offer remote or hybrid work, and may encourage it as a tradeoff to reducing or exiting out of physical office space. Others are unable and unwilling to leave the traditional workplace, especially those in education (teachers!), higher education campuses and those who work directly with the local community.  

More likely, you may have a workforce that is gathered in centralized places, and now employees each have a different opinion – hate work from home, need to get away, don’t feel safe in the ‘office’ and others who love hybrid… What is a leader to do?

Keeping up with compensation expectations is also a big challenge for any nonprofit leadership team and board. Recruiting qualified staff with the old adage, “I don’t do it for the money, I love my job” may be gone. The reality of small margin budgets make things an ever bigger challenge. 

Have I Prioritized Mindfulness

Leading mission-driven organizations and assuring mission realization is some of the most critical work on the planet. We support people when the government can’t and business won’t. Our day-to-day work is life-giving.

Dr. Theresa Ricke-Kiely, author of the forthcoming book, Mindful Nonprofit Leadership, advises that “in today’s nonprofit organizations, being mindful is becoming an essential skill. It is a paradox- if you cannot manage yourself, how can you effectively lead others?”

Ricke-Kiely explains that mindful leadership is about being proactive and responding- not reacting to the outer (or inner) world voices. Leaders are attentive and act with intention. They observe (not judge) and listen deeply without getting distracted by the noise.

You may already have a mindfulness practice. If not or you want to re-engage, check out Coach Muriel Murphy’s article on 10 Practices for Rejuvenating Your Body & Mind Through Better Sleep on this blog.

How do I Show Vulnerability as a Nonprofit Leader

Since Brené Brown’s best-selling books, The Power of Vulnerability, Daring Greatly and Dare to Lead, vulnerability has become part of the leadership toolkit. Brown’s extensive research shows that being vulnerable is being authentic, and as a leader, involves a change in mindset that enables you to see through the eyes of the people you lead. By doing so, you invite them to become the drivers of the conversation. The result is that people become more involved and invested. 

Have you paused to assess how you show vulnerability as a leader? Take the opportunity to explore how to learn its value, recognize your own vulnerability, practice and use it as a new or reclaimed superpower. 

Have I Assessed my own Power Skills

Speaking of superpowers, have you evaluated your own power skills, formerly known as soft skills? Which are your strongest? Can you identify and articulate to strengthen your gaps?  

A recent McKinsey Global Survey found that most respondents say that skill building (more than hiring, contracting, or redeploying employees) is the best way to close performance gaps and that respondents have doubled down on their efforts to reskill or upskill employees since the pandemic began. The survey results also point to a shift in the most important skills to develop, which tend to be social and emotional in nature: for example, empathy, leadership, and adaptability. 

Work through your power skills, celebrate your strengths and get vulnerable and authentic about your gaps in leadership. Invite your board, leadership team, and staff to participate in reflecting on their power skills. 

One last suggestion: consider getting a Professonal or Executive Coach. You can check out our MMSNorCal Coaching Collective – we can facilitate these conversations and our coaches can work with you to clarify your goals, map your path, hone your skills and provide steady support to ensure your success!

Here are three articles on this blog that can also help you further understand the value and benefits of a coaching program:

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How to Reset, Reflect, & Rejuvenate Yourself for 2022

How to Reset, Reflect, & Rejuvenate Yourself for 2022

Today, 21 December 2021, is the winter solstice, the shortest day of the year, just before one year ends and a New Year begins. As holiday preparations are in full swing and we are getting ready to ring in the New Year, we asked MMSNorCal coaches about how they reset, reflect and rejuvenate.

What do I really want to do during the Holidays?

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That’s the question Coach Sarah E. Spencer likes to start with: “There are so many expectations from family, friends and ourselves, some we have control over, some we don’t. I ask myself, what will I find energizing, which traditions do I want to carry forward this year, or is there another way to find the same satisfaction?”

For years she baked, delivered or mailed 100 cookie boxes during this time. 

Sarah loved carrying on the cookie traditions from her mother, grand-mother and mothers before her, so she baked one batch of each favorite cookie to give to the elders. But over time, she also learned to make adjustments to many of her favorite holiday things – lots of cookies and candy, wine that flows at parties, the French cheese plate – and instead, savor a special treat every day, drink extra water, and make sure to get enough sleep. 

Coach Michelle Hayden-Marsan prepares for the holidays by asking: “What do I want to do for myself and for others this holiday season? I make a list with a few very simple things. What do I want to make for others as an act of gratitude for their friendship? I might decide to bake cookies, make a batch of kahlua or fragrant sachets. The act of “making something” with love and tying it up with the perfect packaging brings me joy and exemplifies the holiday spirit for me.”

Coach Michelle Mueller Ihrig believes: “it is a great practice to set regular time aside each week to plan the week ahead. I usually do this on a weekend morning, or if not then, in the evening. I make sure to carve out time to make a plan. This is a great practice to avoid feeling like life is racing ahead uncontrolled, and instead to instill a sense of calm and knowing that I am infusing  my actions with intention and that I am in charge of my time. This is especially true during the holidays.”

Michelle recommends you “grab a calendar, and if the house is busy, take off to your favorite coffee shop or outdoor spot for an hour and you’ll be amazed how much you accomplish. Make a quick list to give you a sense of where you’d like to focus, prioritize, make a plan and feel your empowerment!”

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Practices that can help You to Reset, Rest, & Renew

The holidays are a busy time and we all have the tendency to fill our calendars with shopping, parties and family events. Coach Carla Morton thinks “it’s important to block out down time so we can rest, recover and rejuvenate, rather than press on through the holidays non-stop.”

Prioritize time off from a busy social calendar to keep your immune system in check. Take vitamins, drink a lot of water, get fresh air and make sure to get enough sleep!

Coach Carla Morton

Coach Sarah in fact does just that; she schedules time to ‘Undo the Doer’ – no alarms, no to-do lists, no social engagements, no pre-ordained expectations including social media, texts or calls. Sarah turns off the ringer and sets a timer so that for just a little time – or a few hours – she can just Be; a practice she finds very restorative.

“I like to give myself time to be mindful and grounded around the holidays. I know there will be so many wonderful times with my family, but also exhaustion, frustrations and triggers from the past and family dynamics can feel overwhelming. I go into the holidays and family time with clarity around my intentions and with boundaries, giving myself permission to leave when I feel ready,” says Coach Lindsey Taylor. “This means I spend 15-30 minutes on my own in the morning or before a family meal. I might  offer to do an errand, go for a short walk or rest. During this time I connect with myself and imagine how I want to show up around my family, as my authentic self, confident and secure.”

Coach Muriel Murphy, a very social and fun loving person, lives alone. To make sure she is not over isolating, she makes plans to cultivate a balance of time with others.

She says, “After a busy schedule of parties, dancing to live music and lunch and dinner dates, I love to stay home, make a pot of chicken soup or hunker down in bed with a cup of tea, a good movie or some other binge worthy series and just chill.”

Coach Muriel finds a daily hike to be a huge reset for her nervous system along with a nightly practice of Legs Up the Wall pose, Nadi Shodana or alternate nostril breathing, and a short silent meditation just before bed.

To feel refreshed and renewed in anticipation of the New Year, Coach Michelle Mueller Ihrig also makes time for quiet and time to move the body. “Quiet time can be a morning practice of taking some time to stretch in bed before getting up; Lighting a candle, listening to a guided meditation, mindfully making a nice cup of hot tea or coffee; Waking all your senses – being aware of your body, your mood, emotions, sounds, feeling of your surroundings. Become a simple observer, and in the stillness, set an intention and choose how you’d like to show up that day.” Since moving and stretching releases tension and signals the brain to release endorphins, Coach Michelle then likes doing some simple exercises or walking outside, breathing in fresh air, connecting with nature and grounding herself.

Holiday times often involve traveling to be with family and staying in their homes. Rather than allowing this to disrupt his routine, Coach Charles Vivier prepares himself mentally and shares his practices with family members so that he can take care of his own needs for quiet time and make time to move and stretch his body.

Time to Reflect on the Past Year

As we are wrapping up one year and gearing up for the next, Coach Michelle likes to spend a time reflecting on the following four things:

  1. What accomplishments and acknowledgements did I have this year? 
  2. Which activities do I want to continue to pursue next year? 
  3. What new items do I want to add to the list? For example, new learnings, stretching outside my comfort zone, making time for things that are important but often get overlooked like relationships with people who mean a lot to me.
  4. What are my top 5 Values? Reviewing and prioritizing my top 5 Values, allows me to bring my whole person to the table, and live a Values driven life with intention, purpose and meaning. 

Coach Charles also takes stock of what works and what can be improved to live better with these prompts:

  1. I acknowledge myself for doing the best I can without judgement or comparison.
  2. I cannot change the past, but I can reframe what happened.
  3. I welcome everyday with a growth mindset, an opportunity to learn, change and grow.
  4. I can be conscious, focus on the now, set reachable goals and enjoy the journey.

His practices include eating healthy, exercising for at least an hour every day and abstaining from alcohol for one month. Since sleep is when the body rejuvenates and Charles knows how important it is to health and wellbeing, he prepares for sleep by quieting the mind and visualizing a restorative sleep. To become an even more compassionate coach, Charles is studying Internal Family Systems. Similar to MMS NorCal and Dr. Cherie Carter-Scott’s concept of sub-personalities, this powerfully transformative, evidence-based model of psychotherapy helps people discover, explore, heal and integrate their subs or parts of the mind.

Setting Thoughtful Resolutions and Goals for the New Year

Coach Lindsey says, “In December, I become inquisitive and start asking friends and family about their New Year’s Resolutions. Sometimes I get inspired by their answers and it makes me ask deeper questions to myself. I give myself time to dream and wonder about what I want to grow, change, learn.”

Some of the questions that Coach Lindsey considers include:

  1. What did I do well this year, what am I proud of?
  2. What goal did I not accomplish that I set out to, and why, what got in the way?
  3. What personal, professional, financial, development, & physical goals do I want for the New Year?

She wants to make sure each goal is not too big and feels manageable so she can reach them and celebrate when she does achieve them.

For Coach Carla, this time is not just the end of the calendar year, it is also her birthday and the beginning of another New Year. She reflects on the lesson or theme for the past year. Instead of setting a New Year’s Resolution, Coach Carla likes to think about “the kind of life I’d like to live that is more expansive than the one I’ve been living” and she makes a list of small steps she can take to move in that direction. “Often what I see is that there is a part of me that needs to expand. Perhaps I need to be more open-hearted or take more risks. Perhaps I need to go outside of my comfort zone and do something I don’t usually do. This is also a time where I like to write in my journal a list of intentions for the next year and then read again what my intentions were for the previous year. I usually find a lot of my intentions were realized!”

Coach Michelle Hayden-Marsan also takes this time to reconnect. “I don’t send cards like in previous years because it is too much work and leaves me feeling rushed and pressured. Instead, I take that week of holiday break to call a few of my special people and wish them well and reconnect instead”.

To help prepare for, and welcome in the New Year, Coach Muriel makes it a conscious point to reconnect with friends and family, “asking each person how they’ve been since we last met and simply check in, slow down and catch up.” With the pandemic restricting our lives to meeting online this past year, Muriel practices presence with each person she reconnects with. “This helps me to restore and feel a strong sense of belonging with them in my life.”

How will you Reset, Reflect, and Rejuvenate yourself?

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